- Managing Me
- Big Ideas
- Managing People
Coaching is one of those words that tends to lace everyday language at work. I wonder though, how many people who are supposed to be doing it, actually know what it means or what it takes to do it properly?
Well, I don’t really know the answer to that question but here’s what it means to me.
if I were to ask you to coach me, I’d be looking for:
This doesn’t mean I expect you to be my best friend. What it does mean is that you will make an effort to understand my values, capabilities, ambitions and development needs. If you don’t take the time to know these things, you will be hard-pressed to know if you are getting my best performance.
Sometimes, I won’t be able to see myself as you see me. Sometimes I will not want to stretch myself for fear that I might fail. As my coach, you will challenge me to go beyond the unspoken boundaries I have set for myself. You will not accept my excuses. You will show your faith in my abilities and my potential to do more by demanding more. And, should I fail, you will help me to extract the learning from it and move on.
When a new idea captures my imagination, it is easy for me to envision bringing it into reality. And yet, while I will understand the importance of it, there will be times when I need your help to stay the course. Starting is usually easy. Finishing is harder. As my coach I will rely on you to remind me of the importance of completing what I set out to do. And, if I shift my focus, you will help me ensure that my reasons are valid.
There will be times when I question my own abilities; when I need guidance and resources to help me do my work and when I need acknowledgement for the work I have already done. As my coach, I will count on you to deliver these things at the times when they are most appropriate. That will require you to talk with me regularly. Our talks do not have to be long but they must be truthful. The success of our relationship will depend on it.
So, that’s what a good coach looks like to me. But, what must a person have in his or her own “kit bag” of characteristics before he/she can hope to successfully fill the role of “good coach”? Well, I expect there are many but the four that come quickly to my mind are these:
If this is all sounding just a tad onerous, you may be wondering what’s in it for you to be a good coach. Where’s the payoff? This is where I think it is:
The reality is, there is no magic formula that will transform us into good coaches. Like most things, it takes work. I happen to think it is very worthwhile work too.
What do you think?